The Greatest Choice

(Photo by Konstantin Koy)

Our choices are a creative act. But the choice for her to lie nude on the bark of a fallen tree and be captured on camera at this angle and in this light is not the same as my choice to share this carefully selected pose to illustrate my meaning. Some choices take more effort.

Love is the choice which takes the greatest effort, so it is the highest choice. It is the easiest choice to make, to surrender, but do not take it lightly because it is also the hardest to fulfil. My choice is you. My love is a creative act.

The Playful Sensuality of Words


Le langage est une peau : je frotte mon langage contre l’autre. C’est comme si j’avais des mots en guise de doigts, ou des doigts au bout de mes mots. Mon langage tremble de désir. L’émoi vient d’un double contact : d’une part, toute une activité de discours vient relever discrètement, indirectement, un signifié unique, qui est je te désire , et le libère, l’alimente, le ramifie, le fait exploser – le langage jouit de se toucher lui-même ; d’autre part, j’enroule l’autre dans mes mots, je le caresse, je le frôle, j’entretiens ce frôlage, je me dépense à faire durer le commentaire duquel je soumets la relation.

Roland Barthes

Together at last: Meaning and Language, you and I.

Translation: Language is a skin: I rub my language against the other. It is as if I had words instead of fingers, or fingers at the tip of my words. My language trembles with desire. The emotion derives from a double contact: on the one hand, a whole activity of discourse discreetly, indirectly focuses upon a single signified, which is “I desire you,” and releases, nourishes, ramifies it to the point of explosion (language experiences orgasm upon touching itself); on the other hand, I enwrap the other in my words, I caress, brush against, talk up this contact, I extend myself to make the commentary to which I submit the relation

Save Her, Always Save Her

Always be alert. Even if you are distracted and blue, there is someone who needs you. Take her by the hand and save her. Choose her. Love her. Fuck her. But stay alert. Happily ever after is not the end of the story. To love deeply means to listen deeply … to take her by the hand and save her always, again and again, just the way you like to fuck her, that is how you should listen and respond.